It can be hard to tell when an aging parent needs more help. Changes often happen slowly, and many people are reluctant to ask for support. Noticing the signs early can help your loved one stay safe, healthy, and independent for longer.
Common signs to watch for
- ✓Changes in personal careWearing the same clothes several days in a row, skipped bathing, or less attention to grooming.
- ✓An untidy or unsafe homePiled-up dishes, laundry, or mail, expired food in the fridge, or clutter that creates tripping hazards.
- ✓Weight loss or poor eatingSkipped meals, little fresh food in the house, or difficulty cooking.
- ✓Trouble getting aroundUnsteadiness, difficulty standing up from a chair, or new bruises that might point to falls.
- ✓Missed medications or appointmentsPill bottles that aren't emptying as expected, or forgotten doctor visits.
- ✓Loneliness or withdrawalLosing interest in hobbies, friends, or leaving the house.
- ✓Caregiver exhaustionIf you're the one providing care and feel worn down, that is a sign too.
Starting the conversation
Choose a calm, private moment. Focus on what your parent wants, such as staying in their own home, and frame help as a way to protect that independence. Start small: a few hours a week of help with errands or housekeeping can make a big difference and build trust.
How home care can help
Non-medical home care provides support with daily activities, meals, light housekeeping, errands, and companionship. Inspiration of the Valley offers home care through ALTCS for eligible UnitedHealthcare members, as well as private pay options. We'd be glad to talk with your family about what support might look like.
Signs that are easy to miss
Some changes are subtle. Unopened mail or unpaid bills, a car with new dents, a thermostat set too high or too low for the Arizona heat, or a pet that isn't being cared for as usual can all point to growing needs. If you live far away, ask a trusted neighbor or friend to check in, and pay close attention during holiday visits.
Making a plan as a family
- 1Talk with your parentListen first. Ask what feels hard and what matters most to them.
- 2Talk with their doctorAsk about any health changes that could explain what you're seeing.
- 3List the tasksWrite down the daily activities and household tasks where help would make a difference.
- 4Explore payment optionsFind out whether your parent may qualify for ALTCS, or plan for private pay care.
- 5Start smallBegin with a few visits a week and adjust as everyone gets comfortable.
Taking care of yourself, too
Family caregivers often put their own needs last. Getting support is not giving up. It helps you stay a loving son, daughter, or spouse rather than an exhausted one. And if you are already the main caregiver, ask us whether you could get paid for that care.
Worried about a parent living alone?
Let's talk about a care plan that keeps them safe, comfortable, and independent at home.